I have smart boys. They know Asher has special needs. They know that it is stressful. Now that I've reflected on our family dynamics, I realize that we don't talk about Autism very much. Are we supposed to be doing that? I think we just feel like this is our family. We don't need to analyze it.
I was stunned, to say the least, by what Knox said this weekend. Knox was being Knox. This includes drama, dropping stuff, and being noisy. He started stomping up the stairs being super loud. I asked him not to be so loud. He said, "Sometimes I feel like I might be Autistic." I know my mouth was open. I let him continue up the stairs.
Randy and I discussed it. Why would he say this? Does he need/want more attention? Is he really concerned that he might be Autistic? We didn't know.
The next day, I asked Knox what he meant when he said it. Of course his reply was that he didn't know. I said to him, "You're not. Not at all." He looked so relieved. I wanted to cry. I asked him of he had been thinking that he might be and he nodded. Should we have been talking about it more with the kids? I reminded Knox that Asher was a really smart boy. He just needs some extra help. I was glad to hear that he knew that and didn't think anything differently about his brother.
Anytime I have talked to the boys about Asher, they all act like they understand. I feel like they find it annoying. Like, "We're not stupid, Mom." That's why I don't pressure them constantly about him. So, this is what I want to know. What do I need to do? Are we ok with the way things are going? Am I keeping my kids in the dark about Asher and all that comes with him?
**Really, tell me your opinions on this post. I may be missing something.
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