Just look at this. The gate is in place. If I didn't stop him, he would climb to the top. (Dad is over it🙁.)
Do we make him happy or make him mind? At this point, it's one or the other. Asher is the most determined child I have ever been around. I know that he has some delays, but he's smart. It's confusing on what he actually understands though. Here are some examples:
1. He understands the word "no." Many times, Asher will stop doing whatever he's doing when I tell him no. He is only 2 though. He has his moments.
2. He understands our routines. If I'm getting bags ready. He knows we are leaving. He'll gather up shoes and my keys and head for the door.
3. He does not understand commands that he has not been specifically taught. I can tell him to bring me his cup and he will. If I tell him to go to the bedroom, he doesn't know what I'm saying.
This is really going to sound terrible, but I'm going to admit it. When we began this process with Asher, I asked my mom if she thought there was a light in his eyes. You know what I mean. I wanted to know if he was here or really present. I'm embarrassed. What would it matter? I would still love him. I would still fight for him. I think I just wanted to know what I was dealing with and not have on my mom blinders.
I can tell you that Asher is smart. You'll just have to take my word for it if you haven't been around him. He figures out things that make me shake my head. He surprises us every day. He knows that his daddy is the outside parent. I hate playing outside. Randy can spend all day out there. It's good that we have that balance, but it's also caused a problem. Randy cannot be in the house without Asher bringing him his shoes. We were happy that he recognized that putting on the shoes meant he would get to go outside, but he is very persistent. Now, he wedges himself between his daddy and the chair and pushes him out. Of course, his dad gives in EVERY TIME. He knows that is Asher's #1 thing to do.
Because I know that he's smart, I know that he can understand. We have to drill into him that wait means wait and no means no. It's like that about every single thing with him. I'm exhausted.
3. He does not understand commands that he has not been specifically taught. I can tell him to bring me his cup and he will. If I tell him to go to the bedroom, he doesn't know what I'm saying.
This is really going to sound terrible, but I'm going to admit it. When we began this process with Asher, I asked my mom if she thought there was a light in his eyes. You know what I mean. I wanted to know if he was here or really present. I'm embarrassed. What would it matter? I would still love him. I would still fight for him. I think I just wanted to know what I was dealing with and not have on my mom blinders.
I can tell you that Asher is smart. You'll just have to take my word for it if you haven't been around him. He figures out things that make me shake my head. He surprises us every day. He knows that his daddy is the outside parent. I hate playing outside. Randy can spend all day out there. It's good that we have that balance, but it's also caused a problem. Randy cannot be in the house without Asher bringing him his shoes. We were happy that he recognized that putting on the shoes meant he would get to go outside, but he is very persistent. Now, he wedges himself between his daddy and the chair and pushes him out. Of course, his dad gives in EVERY TIME. He knows that is Asher's #1 thing to do.
Because I know that he's smart, I know that he can understand. We have to drill into him that wait means wait and no means no. It's like that about every single thing with him. I'm exhausted.
This is why he loves it outside. He messes! He's in the mud, water, and sand. This is ALSO why it's hard to tell him no.
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